Once
in a while I wander off mentally and start beating myself up for not “making a
difference.” It's a "me" thing, and I've gotten used to it.
I
was halfway down that path this morning when my phone rang.
From
the other end of the line came a little giggle as my wife, Margaret, excitedly
told me that one of the senior people in her company had just returned from
vacation and had brought her some chocolates and a little gift.
Now
Margaret routinely brings back souvenirs for her friends and co-workers when we
go away. But she doesn’t expect others to reciprocate…this is just something
she always has done.
And I'm sure the person who brought her these gifts was doing what she would usually do.
But,
as I listened to the sheer joy in Margaret's voice, I realized that what we might think of as a “little
thing” just might be seen by others
as BIG.
And
that’s something important to remember as you’re interacting with your
co-workers, your friends, strangers who you meet in the course of your day…the actions that you take, the things that
you say, no matter how trivial they may seem to you, can make a world of
difference to someone else.
I
try to emphasize this in my classroom conversations at Curry College, where I’m
full-time faculty in the Communication Department and teach most of the
undergraduate Public Relations Concentration courses, as well as at Regis College, where I teach part-time in the graduate Organizational and Professional Communication area.
I
caution my students that actions, words, and deeds are powerful forces for good
as well as for harm. And I urge them to never forget that the person on the
receiving end of something you do or say will then make a decision based on your action, word, or deed.
I’m
not trying to get all navel-worshippy deep here. I’m just thinking about the
feeling of absolute glee that a simple action on the part of one person (way
higher in the “food chain,” by the way) brought to someone else.
And, you know what? My day has gotten brighter as well!
“And
now you ask in your heart, “How shall we distinguish that which is good in
pleasure from that which is not good?
Go
to your fields and your gardens, and you shall learn that it is the pleasure of
the bee to gather honey of the flower,
But
it is also the pleasure of the flower to yield its honey to the bee.
For
to the bee a flower is a fountain of life,
And
to the flower a bee is a messenger of love,
And
to both, bee and flower, the giving and the receiving of pleasure is a need and
an ecstasy.”
--Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet, “Pleasure” [1923]
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